Ive been done god knows how many times by house wiring, 240v with a 13amp fuse (put my hand on an exposed plug) the fuse didnt pop so im not sure how many amps it was lol.
BAck on topic...
Why dont you just disconnect the battery if your unsure?
Most die on 240 because they get hold of something live, the muscles go into spasm and they can't let go.if your lucky you just touch and the shock throws you off and you just feel the pain. Thats why its bred into us sparks to lightly touch a bare cabe even if you know it's dead, it a habit you soon get into after a zap or two
Nothing electrical on the car will kill you unless you get a belt, shout fcuk and jump back, fall over you tool box and split your head open.

It's DC voltage that causes you not to be able to let go. AC you'll let go of pretty quickly. DC basically turns your muscles on so you can't let go. AC are turning them on and off quickly so you can let go.
And Chris is mostly correct. It is current that kills you. I believe it's either 10 or 20 milli amps across the heart that will kill you. You can apply a high voltage and current across two points on one arm and whilst it will hurt or even burn, it's not across the chest so unless you have a condition that is likely to be triggered, it won't kill you. The main danger is across the chest e.g. from one hand to the other.
As for the ballast / bulb. Changing it is fine providing the lights are turned off. If you want to be certain, then just remove the 12v into the ballast and allow a few minutes for any residual charge in the ballast to dissipate.